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11/27/2025

The Three Commands of Connection

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Author Kanoee Scott

Today's Word of Wonder: Grace

The Scripture Spotlight for Today

"Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."
— Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)

The Devotion: The Blueprint for Relational Health

We often complicate how to live a good life, but today's WOW scripture simplifies it down to three powerful, actionable commands. This verse isn't just about avoiding conflict; it's about actively building connection and peace in a world that often prizes criticism and holding grudges.

Notice the movement of the verse:

  1. Be Kind: This is the external action. Kindness is the choice to be gentle, helpful, and generous with our time and words, even when we don't feel like it. It's the visible manifestation of love.

  2. Be Tender-Hearted: This is the internal attitude. This means cultivating empathy—the ability to feel and understand another person's pain or joy. It means your heart isn't hardened or guarded, but soft and responsive to the humanity in others.

  3. Be Forgiving: This is the spiritual transaction. Forgiveness is often described as a gift we give others, but it is ultimately a gift we give ourselves, releasing the bitterness that binds us.

The entire blueprint rests on the final, most essential clause: "...as God in Christ forgave you."

We are commanded to treat others with a kindness, tenderness, and forgiveness that is not earned by them, but is modeled by God's radical grace toward us. Our ability to give grace should always be proportional to the depth of the grace we have received.

A WOW Moment is realizing that your relationships—with family, friends, coworkers, and even strangers—are not just social transactions. They are daily opportunities to live out the very core of the Gospel.

Wonder Prompt (Actionable Reflection)

Think of one relationship that feels strained or difficult right now.

  • Which of the three commands—kindness, tender-heartedness, or forgiveness—is the hardest for you to apply in that situation?


  • Commit to practicing just that one command today, recognizing that you are operating not on your own emotional strength, but on the strength of the grace you have been given.